If you prick us, do we not bleed? If you tickle us, do we not laugh? If you poison us, do we not die? And if you wrong us, shall we not revenge?
–William Shakespeare (The Merchant of Venice)
You and I, have been in situations where we were being wronged, taken advantage of, or laughed at. The pain, anger, and humiliation resulting from the situation keeps pricking us whenever we think about the situation or see the wrongdoer. All this makes us uncomfortable. It automatically makes our mind to think of plans on how to take a good revenge on the wrongdoer.
Revenge is an emotional and psychological state which automatically gets triggered, resulting in solid energy in a person who is being offended by other.
People take revenge in all phases of life and on all levels. Sometimes, it causes no harm, and sometimes it causes great harm that cannot be reversed. No wonder, there are many good revenge movies and songs describing someone’s revenge journey after being wronged.
So when you find yourself planning a revenge, ask yourself this simple question.
What’s my Motive Behind Revenge?
Some of you tend to ignore things with a much better perspective and continue living your life as if nothing has happened. It’s like a meditated and mindful state, in which you have a composed persona even when your surrounding is distracting. These are those of you who go through a journey of finding your center, balance and focus – a journey of mindfulness.
And there are those of you, who take every little occurrence to heart and you keep thinking about it. Of course sometimes things happen that really shake you – like a coworker stealing your idea to present as his own that you worked very hard on. It is at these times that you start thinking negatively.
But what if you changed your route from going towards a negative revenge, to taking a good revenge that benefits you?
What is a Good Revenge?
A negative revenge only causes harm to the other person and guilt on your conscience. It does not benefit you in any way. But, a good revenge is a revenge where the wrongdoer does not get harmed and it also causes you great benefit. It becomes the source of motivation for you to accomplish great things just to prove yourself in front of the wrongdoer.
How to Take a Good Revenge?
When the time comes, let loose a tiger and a devil; but wait for the time with the tiger and the devil chained -not shown- yet always ready. –Charles Dickens
And so you have decided to teach the wrongdoer a lesson. You might find yourself subconsciously humming the tunes of some good revenge songs. The song lyrics appear like it’s your story and main motive in life. But, instead of stooping low, you take the anger as a source of motivation to become better.
Prove them wrong by silently succeeding in life goals because success is the best revenge. You might have some weak points that need to be addressed. Or there must be some tasks that you planned but never completed because, well we all love procrastinating.
Instead of thinking of tactics to degrade your wrongdoer, start focusing on your weak points and addressing issues that need work. Silently work harder to become a person that no one can beat, a person that everyone looks up to, and a person no can seem to stop talking about in a good way.
Even if you meet your wrongdoer on a daily basis, ignore their existence. Carry on with your life as if they, and what they have done, does not affect you. But, be careful and vigilant of their actions – they may be planning more traps on your way as your calm demeanor will make them uncomfortable.
And finally, once you are successful, the whole world will see it, and so will your bully. Let your happiness, success and accomplishments prove your worth in front of the world.
That’s when your revenge will be done.
The best part of taking a good revenge – it diverts all your energy and anger on polishing your qualities rather than wasting it on something which is not beneficial to you in the long run.
Revenge is a state of inner satisfaction that comes from retaliating what was caused to you. But it comes with a side of guilt on your conscience because you are better than this. You have the power to let go and choose forgiveness.
It’s not easy, we get it, but as Dalai Lama says, “While revenge weakens society, forgiveness gives it strength.” Let this good revenge quote be your affirmation that encourages you to forgive.
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